The mental distortions of depression

The world which once shun light in infinite vibrant colours is now consumed by a darkness which appears to have no form yet seems to have limitless power.

The power I speak is like a second shadow only, instead of following the actions of the owner of the shadow, it insidiously creeps up inside one’s mind and burrows deep beneath your inner conscience making little alterations here and there but not enough to be noticeable nor preventable.

It is the cancer in your mind that you are unable to expunge. The creator of misery and further suffering. It feeds on negativity, this monster has no rational demands so bargaining is off the table.

Ignorance can be bliss yet a dangerous route, waking up a week later looking at actions that you have come about.

It is when constant mindfulness and  bringing oneself back to the reality,  that one has the power to see and bring out one’s best side even when one’s worst side is wearing their skin.

Put yourself in another’s shoes to greater understand the inner workings of another’s mind

You don’t need the ability of an empath to make an attempt to put yourself into the mind of another person.

Here a few basic things I have learned that I believe to be helpful in ‘putting yourself in another’s else’s shoes’.

— Make NO assumptions when meeting another person for the first time; If you allow your personal bias to influence your perspective on the onset then you have already put yourself at a disadvantage

— Ask with ‘genuine’ curiosity with no apparent motive in mind towards others and they are far more likely to display a more truthful and unoffensive stance when they respond

— Only when we are able to convince another that we are genuinely looking out for their best interests, will allow the person a ‘safe space’ to let you into their internal world, one piece at a time

— By being aware of your own personal bias and prejudice prior to engagement with another can greatly assist in enabling others to open up in the ways that they feel is natural and comfortable

— Without some form of ongoing rapport between any two individuals,  it can allow room for ‘selfish emotions’ that generally drive the level of openness and curiosity to dissipate. Thus an ongoing mutual connection is far more likely to bear bear the fruit of emotional expression, which is the essence of understanding another’s mind

— By listening to certain tones of voice, bodily gestures, the changing of subjects when issues that do no want to be discussed, noticing changes in emotional state and many other forms of identifying how another is thinking and feeling, lays the groundwork for developing a consistent level of rapport

Life is like an internet browser history

— Our reality is defined by the information we choose to give ourselves.

— If too large a portion is dedicated to the research of misery/negativity in the world, when we return to our browser history (human past experiences) there will be a higher propensity of information related to misery/negativity. (misery/negativity could be replaced with joy/happiness for example and it would have the same effect)

— It is then much more likely during abstract moments throughout our daily lives that we will allow ourselves to reflect back on this information.

— So take care of what information you choose to absorb on a regular basis, as it will greatly influence your outward perception of all aspects of the world around you.

A short guide of how to meditate

The idea of meditation is to essentially turn off the thinking, ego part that defines us individually, and pay more attention to what one is experiencing with their 5 senses.

In this case there is a video for you to focus on visually, generally meditation works better when one is using their eyes to observer the moment they are currently in

By focusing on the mantra being chanted by Deva Premal, there are only 3 senses remaining that also need to be kept in focus; what you can feel, what you can smell and what you can taste.

This does not mean using all 5 senses at once when meditating, but using the senses available to you as you listen to the track to allow you to focus on:

WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW AT THIS VERY MOMENT, not a moment before and not a moment afterwards. As soon as we notice that the mind has wandered off to thoughts of the past of making future projections then we are no longer in the moment.

The goal of meditation is to stay ‘in the moment’ for extended periods of time, so that when something does occur in real life it is much easier to deal with as.

Potential coping methods during mental duress

–Your mind is like a living organism which displays certain traits and ideals. If you do not acknowledge these traits and ideals within your mind, they will continue to operate in the background of the mind (the subconscious) and affect your thoughts and actions.

— Sometimes it is easier to make peace with and accept the mental state (IE stressed out) that you are in, than attempt to change this to a more preferable mental state (completely relaxed) as this can take extraneous energy. Wait out the the storm rather than bear it

— Taking note of potential triggers and developing coping methods in advance

— Instead of making desperate attempts to change mental states, start to develop an awareness, understanding of this each of your mental states to assist in coming to terms and controlling them better.

Why do other people actually annoy you?

When some-one annoys you, it is not them that annoys you but your internal perception of them and what beliefs they support.

Next time somebody, ANYBODY ‘annoys’ you, take a look inside to see why that annoys you and you will likely find that the annoyance is towards yourself in some manner.

Spend more of your day enjoying and less of the day annoying.

Observations of homo-sapiens (humans)

— The harder you try and hide your agenda , the more obvious it becomes

— People are terrible liars, their eyes are generally unable to conceal at the most critical of times

— Whilst people do their best to appear be motivated by selflessness, yet if you look deeper, it is purely a denial of oneself motivated by self-interest

— The more complex a fake persona an individual puts on, the easier it is to see the cracks and imperfections of this persona that one desperately tries so hard to hide. Alternatively when one acts genuinely, the noticeable imperfections still stand out, but seem to matter a whole lot less.

–The ‘doers’ of every age assist to move the wheel forward, whilst thinkers are always trying to reinvent the wheel. Both are necessary for man to move forward.

— You cannot begin to understand anybody else until you put yourself in their shoes

–Polite conversations occur when one is being least authentic

–The human condition has aggressive tendencies, some people display this through physical and emotional violence, whilst some achieve the same ends with passive aggressive tendencies

–Only the select few have the courage to at themselves inwardly

— The ones who claim they want to change their lives are the ones who have forgotten to appreciate what they already have to continuously nurture this.

— When a new individual comes into ones life, it has the potential to create and unlock doors that where once conceived impossible

— We are easily influenced by our emotions, which have a tendency to disguise themselves as what appears to be a logical decision free from the influence of emotion

— People are easily offended when you show and tell them things that they do not want to see or hear

— Peoples perception of self changes based on what they view to be physically or mentally appealing